Not everyone reciprocates the gesture.
This is a hard truth but it’s true.
If other people poured the same amount of effort into me as I pour into them, things would probably be different, but things aren’t always equal in friendships and relationships.
I honestly think that we should help other people and take care of them because it’s a good thing to do, not because we want something back.
But by the same token, if we’re not getting anything back to sustain us when we need it, we shouldn’t help people to the point where we drain our own resources.
I’m not being selfish.
Putting yourself first feels so wrong when you first start doing it.
If you’re used to erasing your own needs to look after others, it seems too self-indulgent.
But actually,the only way to consistently and effectively help other people in the long-termis to make sure you’re in a good place yourself.
I’m important too.
It actually took me a while to get to the point where I can say this, but there’s no reason why my own wants and needs shouldn’t matter as much as the other people in my life.
I deserve to have the same level of support and I certainly deserve to get where I want in life.
I deserve to be happy.
Helping people has always made me happy and it still does, but I’ve come to understand I want another kind of happiness too – pride in my own achievements, emotional resilience, stuff that’s really to do with me and not anyone else.
It’s time to make that happen.